After extensive searching, I’ve finally narrowed down my question!
Using the COM Wrapper, does the document.save return a variant with an array in it?
Document.Save save into a file or into a stream. I don’t think you should use Document.Save to save into a stream from COM at least because it is probably too complicated, these are .NET streams and have nothing to do with ADO or any other streams. So your only option is to save into a file, just give it a file name to save into.
That was my last option but I was determined to solve this memory stream issue 
Guess I’ll just document.save to temp files and save to db and delete the files right afterwards.